This post, as the previous one, is heavily inspired by a very dear friend of mine, a friend who is family ( wouldn’t name her for reasons you will come to know as you read on)
She is in love with this amazing, young lad – vivacious, young, effervescent love. The kind where everything is roses and honey, the mundane paths of your life are laced with violins, the sun is extra bright and the rays penetrate right through you to light up your inner core. Her current state is such.
Everyone is beautifully aware of this phase – we, her closest, of course are. Her office colleagues, who have seen the chemistry transpire, know. Her bosses know – when on days , she walks in with a smile bright enough to light up the office and on those evenings she leaves a tad early ( personal commitments of course ;)). Her not so close friends are also aware, since those frequent Friday night dinners are now not as frequent as they used to be, and when asked, she always has some other plan ( in a city, where until a few weeks back she knew no one else). The cab drivers know, who see her in the rear view mirror, gazing wondrously out of the window with a hint of a smile, shaken back to reality with every bumper. She, who helps with the cleaning of the house, knows, because she has to mop extra hard on days when ‘guests’ are expected.
Guess who doesn’t know?
The mystery man, of course!
… because, you know, what if …. ( there is no what if here because both hearts are singing so loudly that I can hear them sitting 500 kms away)
Ever wondered, how much we let our lives be lead by the ‘what ifs’ and the ‘buts’. Fear of what may happen looms so ominously that it overshadows the beauty of the plausible, colorful rainbow.
What if he comes to know I need him? What if my love isn’t reciprocated? What if she isn’t ready?
A) you’ll never come to know the ‘what if’ if you don’t ask
B) say it before it’s too late
This morbid fear is overarching and extendable to all spheres of life.. the ‘what if’ is with friends, family, boss – all the most important stakeholders and maybe the not so important ones as well.
Drop that inhibition today. If you have something to say, say it.
Who knows, maybe the other person is also in the ‘what if’ conundrum!
P.S – you now know why I haven’t named her, because you know, what if 😉
P.S 2- isn’t this setting perfect for the scenario after the ‘what if’ 🙂